How Are You Wielding Your Knife?

When I first began my wellness journey I connected with a holistic spiritual center. This was my first exposure to the metaphysical world. Interestingly many of the teachers there were Korean and spoke very broken English, and yet I experienced more connection and communication with them in many ways than I often shared with native folk around me. The teachers seemed to see something in me. It was the first time I was acknowledged and appreciated for my sensitivity.

During this fertile period of personal growth and awakening, I was seeking answers to questions I had both about the direction of my life and some health issues with which I was dealing. In response to a number of physical symptoms that were spiraling into what appeared to be some kind of deterioration of my health, my teacher began speaking to me in the language of metaphor offering wisdom that has prompted me forward on many occasions, despite distraction or obstacles.

She said: “You possess within your being a powerful knife. This knife can be good for many things. Having such a knife is a privilege. You can chop things with your knife, carve things with your knife, and create many things with your knife. Some people may look to you and say that you are lucky because you possess a knife. However, having a knife like this comes with great responsibility. If you do not use your knife it can become a destructive device that will cause self-harm.”

The energy and information transmitted to me in that moment took some time to fully grasp. I pondered this concept for some time. However as I continued to grow in awareness, I began to fully absorb the message she had given.

Over time I realized that my knife was my abundance of creative energy which comes in part from being a channel between the higher and lower. Actively expressing this energy required the using of my gifts and talents–this was “using my knife”. The fact that I was a pretty lost individual at the time, still trying to cram myself into the standard mainstream box while stuffing down my eccentric differences, was a primary reason for my physical ailments. My knife was cutting me.

Unexpressed creative energy is a common cause of illness, addiction and depression. To simplify this idea, let’s boil it down to your gifts and talents (your knife). No matter who you are, you are born with some specific talent, gift or capacity. Within your very distinct talents there is an abundance of creative energy.

So the singer then must sing; the artist must paint; the craftsman must build; the healer must heal; the communicator must communicate; the cook must prepare food; and the writer must write.

Time today is pretty tight. The demands of having a solid job and steady income ends up taking up a great deal of our time and energy. Often the jobs we work at may not be aligned with our unique gift which we have been endowed with by Spirit. This gift then, is unexpressed.

The one with the outstanding singing voice, for example, works from 9 to 5 and then rushes home to love and care for her child; she does not sing.

Understandably, this noble and responsible behavior is well understood and even respected. But despite the good intentions of this non-singing singer, on some level her unexpressed gift is causing her grief or harm.

The non-singing singer will most likely feel dissatisfied with her life, maybe even drained or depressed. Life zooms by and there is little time to connect all the dots to understand the true source of her discontent. In fact, she will most likely blame things outside of herself. Rarely does one just rise up in the midst of the often harsh reality of life and say, “well if I just used my god given gift and burst out in song today, then all would be healed”.

Yet, that is the truth of the matter. Putting the demands of life aside, you have an absolute responsibility to use your knife.

Spirit endows us all with something special that we are to bring into the material realm, and expressing this creative energy is important. It brings us into alignment with our divine blueprint, our true and highest, healthiest version of our self, and places a unique puzzle piece in its destined spot within the whole. This is a puzzle piece that cannot be filled by any other.

At the end of the day, monetizing our gifts so that we can be one with the expression of this creative energy is an ideal that we can always work towards. However, if this is not a reality for us at this very moment in time, we still have to use our knife.

Wielding your knife as a hobby, in your private time, as a free gift you share with others in self-determined ways, or just for pleasure, is a must.

More often than not the depressed, sick, addicted or lost adult that is suffering in some way is the beholder of an unexpressed talent or gift with much trapped creative energy (usually in the solar plexus region). The angry, antisocial, or hyper child with behavior challenges most probably has a very special gift that has yet to be uncovered or developed.

The creative energy of these super powers is unrelenting, and does not neutralize just because we decide we cannot afford to express it.

Discovering what kind of knife you possess, and finding a way to use it regularly in your life, will alter your life forever. This is a key to feeling better, being happier, becoming whole, losing excess weight, healing your body, and connecting to the higher depths of your life.

Do you know what your knife is? Have you used it before, but laid it down or left it behind? Do you remember how it felt to use your knife? How can you start using your knife today?

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The Middle Way Takes You There

A New Take On Resolutions:The Middle Way Takes You There

As we shift now, marked by the end of ancient calendars and the beginning of a new year, there seems to be a call for a transcendence and reconciliation of the extremes and opposing ways in our life.

Having survived the polarizing period marked by the end of humanity’s 26,000 year cycle, and the conclusion of another year in our personal lives, we continue to travel around the circle of life as we embark on new beginnings.

We often celebrate the end of a year by setting intentions of some kind for the next. In this way, we generally say, “I want to stop doing this and start doing that.”

However, whether we are looking forward globally as a collective, or personally as an individual, moving from the extreme of this to the opposite extreme of that involves a massive change.

Idealism aside, in most cases such moves are unrealistic. A reason that resolutions of this kind do not hold up is because they are just too drastic.

Rarely do they honor where you ARE but rather they catapult you toward an ideal that you are nowhere near able to sustain (otherwise, you’d already be doing it).

The Way Between This and That

Maybe you’ve noticed that extremes have been playing out everywhere. The flame of extremism peaks it seems before it burns out. Many people, myself included, have been bouncing between old habits and new behaviors, high emotional states and lowly feelings of shame and pain, or feelings of throwing-in-the-towel met with a new sense of can-do felt stronger than ever before.

In this way it is apparent that the conclusion of this year is a catalyst for integration.

We have arrived at a connection with our zero point. This beginning is different from others in that now we can finally integrate our inner (subjective) world and the outer (objective) world.

The potential for such reconciliation has been long sought by many, because the separation and deviation between our inner-world-reality and our outer-world- reality causes each of us suffering.

Here, in the zero point energy offered between the old and the new, there is an opportunity and call to integrate our extremes in order to embark on a middle-way.

The middle-way says that we don’t damn the thing we think we need to stop, nor do we idealize the thing that we want to start.

Instead, we find the place in between these two points, where we can balance and even enjoy ourselves while making upgrades and taking the journey toward our own potential.

Very often we resist the middle way because:

–>      As a path it seems too simple and subtle

–>      Balance is in fact the hardest thing

But the middle-way is the perfect fusion between where we are and where we want to go, the neutral point between what we deem bad and good, and the states of being & doing. 

In the middle, we don’t need to stop or start, but rather we just move along toward our next in renewed ways.

A New Approach for a New Year

This year as you take stock of your thrills, successes, disappointments and personal let-downs, find the lessons.  And if you make a resolution consider letting it be simply to go forward on the path of the middle-way where you integrate where you are and where you are headed.

By setting a resolution to find the middle-way in all that we aspire to improve or change, we will begin collapsing dualities and taming extremes.

Some examples of common extremes and possible middle-way intentions could include:

–>      Natural Healing vs. Allopathic Medicine

The Middle Way:  As we look towards the possibility of improving our health or healing, we can give ourselves permission to use the medicines, supplements, foods and treatments that support us right now that create maximum comfort and success regardless of what they may be.

–>      Indulgence vs. Abstinence

The Middle Way:  As we examine habits or behaviors that we may beat ourselves up about or struggle to keep balanced, we can use the crowding out philosophy which allows partaking without berating as we include equal behaviors, substances and nourishing activities that feel good and naturally crowd-out the imbalanced habit without feeling deprivation (which is a trigger for addiction).

–>      Real Relationship vs. Ideal Relationship

The Middle Way:  As we ponder ways to increase contentment and satisfaction in our personal relationships we can start by dropping the extreme templates formed around the expectations placed in our heads from fairy tales, hollywood movies, or roles and images from days of old.  Instead we can go for the practice of allowing each other to be who we are and looking for ways to compromise and find the middle ground around this authentic being-ness.

–>     Religion vs. Spirituality

The Middle Way:  As we reflect on belief systems or look to up our spiritual practices we can intend to ease the promotion of strict lines of thinking that lead us to feel fear, guilt, shame and separation and find ways to connect with the essence and heart from which our personal practice is based, which unites, edifies and builds up.

–>      Job that you don’t like vs. Creative Labor that excites you

The Middle Way:  As we seek meaning and purpose in our lives through career or service, we can give ourselves space to re-examine how we spend our days, our occupational duties, and the ideal that lights us up.  Rather than drastic moves or staying the course in mysery, it is likely possible to find ways to do more of what we love at our existing occupation and less of what we don’t, or ignite projects outside of work that include our passions.

Having It All Right Now

We know from experience that there is rarely a quick fix solution.  Unresolved “stuff” which stands between the way it is and the way it could be indicates that it is going to take time for things to fully shift to the eden-like state of perfection that we are all templated to desire.

This may best be taken on by keeping our eye on the new possibility which we can see clearly now perhaps for the first time while taking steps of incremental change which lead us into the Garden.

Through sincerity, endurance, presence and truth of heart we always prosper.  The path of the middle-way takes us out of our all or nothing mentality and places us in an energetic zone of prosperity where we exist within the potential of having it all right now. And we do whatever we can do right now, from this place.

As we enjoy this fresh start of a new year, we only need to make one resokution: to inyend to move along the path of the middle-way. 

It is the one resolution that will mean something very different to us all, and yet will simultaneously set us on a unified path.

Creating Like the gods Using Your Crystal Clear Intentions

And in the beginning, there was intention.

A vibrational container, intention is both the road map that directs our path, and the vehicle in which we flow forward.  Our intentions drive for us, even when we are not looking.

Defined as an aim or plan, an intention is a thing intended.  The late Middle English origin of the word was intentio in Latin meaning stretching and purpose.  Our intention then is a focused aim which is stretching us toward something.  This “something” is inspired by some purpose that moves us.

The energy of our life is moved by our dominant intentions.  And yet, with so much going on in our lives, if someone asks us what our intention is, we may find it difficult to accurately define.

Wishy-washy intentions create diffused experiences and result in confusion and chaos.  As a result, the universe is often creating multiple contradictory streams on our behalf.

Getting crystal clear about our intentions is a savvy alchemical move.  It allows you to enjoy more positive and fulfilling movement in your life towards what you love, with more ease.

The Organizing Vehicle of Creation

Intention is where divine Intelligence (consciousness) and the will of an individual-being intersect to provide instructions for the flow of creation.

Today modern science is beginning to validate what spiritual masters and visionaries have understood—that our thoughts, beliefs, and intentions indeed affect the world we live in.  Our creative potential is far greater than we realize.  Whether we are aware of it or not, we are always at work creating our future. It’s best then to create something that we like or want.

In light of this, taking some time to set, or tease out, the intentions for our life will ensure that we do not haphazardly create, based solely on day-to-day survival or hidden fears.

Always Working for You, Even When You’re Not

Your intention is more powerful than the actions that you are, or are not, taking each day.  Simply put, your intention is carrying you forward, even when you are lying on your back kicking and screaming.

Have you ever noticed that when you look back at old to-do lists or vision boards, almost everything you wanted or intended has somehow materialized or is very close at hand?

Meanwhile, you probably spent quality time obsessing, freaking and complaining during those years about how you are not getting anything on your to-do list done and that you’re staying in the same place that you have been trying to leave.

I recently dusted off my vision binder from several years ago and as I flipped through was amazed to find that nearly every item on my list, and every image tacked, had already manifested or was in the process of manifesting to some degree now.

Considering that I spent quality time through those years very frustrated with my perceived lack of professional progress, while being consumed with the important job of being a mom to my son, this was a real revelation about the law of attraction and the power of intention.  All the while I thought I was getting nowhere, but my clearly defined intentions were moving me forward even without my realizing it.  In that moment I realized the power of my intentions alone, and was grateful for the positive and inspired intentions I had set for myself.

Creating Like the gods

As we grow in our spiritual evolution there is access to greater frequency.  With this added power comes added responsibility.

It is essential that we take the responsibility of advanced creation seriously.  Clear intentions, aligned with the will of Spirit and highest good, are the key to masterful and responsible creation.

In order to be an effective creator, I have found the following to be helpful:

–>Take time to clarify intentions for each area of your life: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual

–>Speak these out loud and write them down

–>Identify and start to eliminate cross-purposes that essentially cancel out or sabotage the dominant intentions

–>Activate intentions with positive emotion, inspiration, visualization and gratitude

–>Demonstrate active faith by taking small actions that are aligned with your dominant intentions

Sit Back & Enjoy the Ride

One of the simplest and most powerful things that we can do right now to create far-reaching change is to take time to get specific and sincere about the intentions we hold.  As creators we can use our untapped resources in this way to generate positive transition in our life and world.

As we look to create our new worlds filled with high-vibe creations, our intentions provide a framework.  A vision which guides our activities, thoughts, attitudes, and choices–our intentions also help us to course-correct when we get off-track.

Setting crystal-clear, positive and energized intentions can protect us by repelling all that is not in alignment while attracting toward us all that is a match in essence.

When our dominant intention is clear, positive and strong, much of the worry we experience each day is needless.  Despite the fact that it may feel like we are moving at a snail’s pace toward our desires, when we are riding in the strong, well-constructed vehicle of our intention we can rest assured that just like that forgotten to-do list from many years back, we are moving towards our destination, and we can sit back and enjoy the ride.

The Magic of Mirroring

One of the things that I have found to be most fascinating in my journey of awareness is the phenomenon of mirroring. The realization that everyone around me is showing or telling me something about myself is truly an extraordinary thought.

It is a psychological truth that we often see in others that which we do not like in ourselves.  Since the law of attraction governs our Universe, like attracts like.  In this way life acts as a mirror for what is going on inside of us.

Often times the Universe sends people that cast a signal to us that answers one of our most pressing questions or helps us to heal our most important issues.  Like a looking glass, the person reflects an image back to us that shows us something we need to see.

Mirroring can be positive or negative; each of these offers a reflection of your truth.

The Good, the Bad & the Ugly 

When we see the positive in others and think about how we wish that we were more like that, we are experiencing positive mirroring.  People in our life whom we admire reflect our positive aspects that we may not recognize or acknowledge in ourselves.  The very fact that we notice and are able to see that attribute signifies that we contain that greatness somewhere in us.

Mirroring however may be most impressive, and challenging, when it happens in less appealing ways.

Working with the public as a holistic health counselor, I have become aware of the magic of mirroring on many occasions through direct experience.

Sending a client my way that mirrors what I need to see in myself, the Universe frequently gives me highly important guidance (for me) during sessions with clients.  Through them I am shown with precision that next thing I need to address, or that critical thing that I have been neglecting to do.

Often clients just won’t follow through on a particular recommendation regardless of how important or key it is to solving their most pressing concern.   In these moments, I have learned to move into neutral awareness and look for the connection.

Usually, this area is somehow related to me; what I am not doing, or not following through on, myself.  The Universe sends a magnetic-twin along to show me the answer that I have been seeking.

Try as I might—seeking the key to a pesky health concern or looking for the cause of a personal life imbalance—without that client and their challenge or question, I have not yet been successful in identifying that particular pattern or need in myself.

When I take the gift of this guidance shown to me by the human-mirror and make the change, I solve a significant problem.  Once I begin taking that supplement, removing that toxin, eating that food, working on that part of my personality, or paying attention to that certain relationship dynamic in my life—my own issue begins to heal.

By paying close attention to the many instances of mirroring in my life, my eyes have been opened to some core patterns.  I was intrigued to find that mirroring was not limited to my professional work, but also showed up in my personal relationships.

A Three Way Mirror

A mirroring pattern between three people has been the most transformative form of mirroring I have witnessed.  When it shows itself in divine perfection, life-long patterns can be resolved that spawn out in many directions.

Peering into the mirrors that the Universe brings into our lives and owning what is being shown can often take real strength…especially when that which is being shown is unflattering.

A revealing moment shown to you in an interaction with another casts a clear reflection.  Somewhere lurking in the shadows of your own being lies that most bothersome, painful and unacceptable trait or aspect that you have repeatedly disliked or been victim of by another.  This is when you finally see that the way you are being treated is also the way you unknowingly have treated someone else; or that the negative aspect you have looked harshly upon in another also lives in you.

It is important to emphasize that this is an unexpected trait or pattern that has long been hidden in you–and something that you would deny or reject.  You will know when you are on to it, because when faced with it in the mirror you can no longer deny it, and it makes you feel defensive, nauseous or emotionally disturbed.

For me, boundaries have always been a real challenge.  I assumed that I was very respectful of all boundaries since people steam-rolled right through mine so often.  However, understanding that this behavior is especially bothersome to me, I knew I needed to look for it within in order to pinpoint the root.

After a lifetime of problems maintaining my own personal boundaries, I had a mirroring-moment where I realized that a family-member who regularly exhibited boundary-busting behaviors that hurt me, was also showing me a deeply hidden disrespect for the boundaries of others within me.

I was stunned to see such a reflection.  It was difficult to see that I was guilty of something that I found so offensive.  After doing some deep inner work and taking responsibility for this issue, I was able to accept that I indeed treated others in this same way on occasion.

Able to view this pattern in three different ways (family member/myself/ friends) I could finally see the perplexing pattern clearly.  Once I was able to see it in this way, I could work to forgive it in another, and then learn to turn that same compassion inward, and also forgive myself.

What You See Is What You Are

Due to the law of attraction and the magic of mirroring it is possible that the types of behavior that we regularly see and don’t like in others are aspects deeply hidden within ourselves.

With constant self-examination, self-honesty, and a willingness to step outside of ourselves regularly, we can use this information to help see ourselves more objectively and to bring to the surface obvious or repressed issues that we have previously buried.

Recognizing the lessons that these situations and individuals are mirroring gives us the precious opportunity to become conscious of our hidden beliefs, feelings, imbalanced behaviors, or shadow personality traits so that we can experience less suffering and conflict.

When we grow in our ability to handle what can often be the difficult reflections shown to us through the phenomenon of mirroring, it becomes our own powerful and secret formula for becoming whole.

The questions, unknowns, and things that we cannot quite figure out on our own are able to be solved by images revealed to us through our connections with others.

Thought-Flipping: A Guide for Taking Charge of Your Mind-Stuff

No matter where we are on our personal growth journey, there is always room for improvement when it comes to disciplining our mind.  The mind-work is never done.

It is estimated that people talk to themselves–either subconsciously or out-loud–at the rate of approximately 50 to 300 words per minute.  Research says that on average we have 65,000 thoughts each day, and that 95% of those thoughts are reoccurring.  Much of this is self-talk or inwardly directed chatter.

Although it may go unnoticed, each thought creates a physical response.  The thoughts being had create emotions and automatic responses in the body which significantly affect our physical health and mental well-being.  Whether we are feeling happy or upset will be dependent on what thoughts we are thinking.  And effects such as accelerated heart rate and changes in blood pressure can be measured as we think certain thoughts.

Essentially our mind is constantly running, thinking repetitive thoughts (the same thoughts that we had yesterday, and the day before that) and our body and emotions are strongly triggered by them.  Clearly, this makes how we think and what we think extremely important.

Mental Cramps

Years ago my personal journey was triggered by symptoms in my body which my first teacher quickly helped me trace with precision, right to my mind.

At first I was so identified with my thoughts that I could not really see them.  My thoughts seemed to be me, and I didn’t feel like I had any power over them.  I had been living a life at the mercy of my undisciplined mind, without even realizing it.

I spent many years focused on taming my wild and rebellious mind.  And in the process I learned that being my own mental-manager was absolutely essential to co-creating a desirable reality.

When I become preoccupied with life, however, I can temporarily lose consciousness in this area for days at a time.  Sometimes I snap-to only to find myself in the midst of racing thoughts, obsessive mental patterns and irrational fears.

For the past few months while navigating a great deal of transition and some very new terrain, I found that I had indeed slipped into a jaded state of mind.  Spinning wildly on the wheel of randomized ideas and unruly self-talk, my mind was in a state of negative looping.

As I began my mental-monitoring, I saw that I was continually framing neutral or potentially amazing things in unnecessarily negative ways.  I had allowed myself to become over-tired, un-centered, and in a state of overwhelm–and as a result, disorderly thought systems were taking root in my un-tended mind.

Negative thoughts grow like weeds.  Left unmanaged, wild and obsessive sprouts can begin to take hold in the soil of the mind.  I knew that I had to get the pruning shears out—and fast.  I immediately dusted off the most powerful mind-tool in my holistic box and began tending to my precious mental garden.

The Thought-Flipping Process

Thought flipping is an advanced form of mind monitoring and management.  This practice accepts that our thoughts are powerful and we can choose them.  Then it wastes no time.

As soon as negative thought-patterns are identified, a silent alarm sounds.  The observer of the thought then steps in with absolute authority and re-programs the mind by flipping the thought on its head, and thinking the exact opposite.

Once a pattern of strong pessimism about a particular aspect of life is identified for example, the observer flips it in that moment, and chooses optimism.   It is the art of taking back the powerful domain of the mind without wasting time giving the weed-thought any consideration or valuable energy.

At first the mind will rebel in defense of the negative thought by alerting the observer of how the flipped thought is ridiculous and could not possibly be true.  With thought-flipping, however, the observer’s immediate response back to the mind is direct and commanding.  The mind is reminded that it’s former thought was, at the very least, as lousy and untrue as the new, flipped one—and as it’s conscious and intelligent Master the observer chooses what is true.

Rewriting Your Mental Script

It is human nature to think negatively about others or ourselves from time to time.  However, unchecked and frequent negative brain chatter can leave us feeling out of control.  A train of thought that is directed towards yourself which undermines you or what you are trying to accomplish, is negative-thinking.   Such spiraling thoughts are the most effective way to self-sabotage.

Take these ideas, for example:

Every day at work you think:  “I am so stressed out because I don’t work as fast as the others at my job, which makes me feel like I am less than those around me, and that at some point I am going to be fired.”  This thought can be healed by changing it to:  “I appreciate that I take my time doing my job according to my own rhythm which allows me to express my unique genius, and my boss should value that attribute in me, because in the end I always deliver big.”

When you turn it around, you realize that either thought can be true.  It is always possible, and even likely, that the negative version which you are obsessively perpetuating is incorrect.

Often times our thoughts don’t even make sense.  Take this common pattern for example:  “I missed an entire week of yoga, so I might as well skip today too and give up the whole idea of exercise completely, because I have no self-discipline.”  Flipping this thought changes it to be more healthy and accurate:  “I honored my feelings and took a needed break from yoga last week, so I am going to take an intense yoga class today because I am truly committed to the idea of feeling good in mind and body.”

A way to transform a thought is to change the wording.  Your thoughts can be wrong, and you can re-write them.  Which one do you want to be true?  You get to choose.

Taking Charge of Your Mind-Stuff

Once you’ve identified a serial negative thought that continues popping into your mind making you feel fearful, sad, uncomfortable, depressed, or hopeless, try the following thought-flipping ritual:

=> Write the thought down on paper and take a good look at it

=> Do you know this thought is true?

=> Does this thought serve you?

=> Write down the opposing thought which counters the negative thought

=> Change the wording of the thought in a way that heals it

=> Every time you find yourself thinking the original habitual thought pattern, catch yourself, and continuously replace it with the new flipped thought

This technique is a process of offering the antidote for the problematic thinking pattern each time it appears.  By flipping the thought, it is cured.  You are healing your mind-stuff thought by thought, thus co-creating a reality with deliberate intent.

How Will Your Garden Grow?

Acknowledging that we can choose our thoughts is taking back a great deal of power.   Becoming aware of our thoughts allows us to look at them.  When we look at them, we are removed from them; there is space between us and the thought.

When there is space between us and our thoughts, we identify with them less.  When we identify with our thoughts less, we can decide if a thought is true, whether a thought serves us, and if there is a better thought that is more aligned with our true nature and highest desires.

And then we can determine what our mind will be filled with 65,000 times a day.

Our world is made from mind-stuff.  Taking the step of conscious co-creation by monitoring our mind, weeding our mental garden, and planting good thought-seeds, will ensure that we like what blooms.

Flowing Into Your Juicy Middle

In our youth driven society extra value is placed on being and staying young.  This is a spell that has been cast, and most everyone has at some point been under its influence, especially women.  Often, it seems that women spend the first half of their lives frustrated that they are not yet what they want to be, and the middle consumed with fears related to running out of time.  Under the spell, they erroneously believe that their window of time to be their best is closing.

Youth has its benefits, however being wrinkle free, tight and perky comes at a high price: being young-minded.  Putting our ideas of youth to bed and flowing with the seasons of our life is the key to realizing our life’s work.

The Art of Becoming 

As a holistic health coach the majority of my clients are women aged 30 to 40.  I commonly hear that they feel overwhelmed, that they are drowning in obligations and responsibilities other than their own, and missing their window of opportunity to realize their own dreams.  They have a deep-seated fear that some of life’s parts are passing them by.

The realization that your life is about becoming the greatness you so desperately seek to express in this world is a paradigm shift.  It means that you, your life, your career, your purpose, your dreams, and your work in the world will be ever-changing, ever-expressing, and ever-evolving.

Despite the archetypal image of the old hag which threatens women into believing that after 25 it is all down hill, in reality the most accomplished and satisfied years of their lives have yet to come.

Separating from the past associations of yourself, however, is necessary in order to create the space to become aligned with the next step.  Realizing that every task, duty, responsibility, talent, prior job, education, interest, ambition, desire and role you have ever had is somehow part of what you are becoming (and not what you are) is essential.

A women can choose to flow into her next act with grace instead of looking in the mirror and obsessing over the fact that her face is falling, or feeling like the number of years she is old is a clock ticking which screams that she is running out of time.

By embracing our seasons, cycles, and maturing gifts we can put away our hot pants…and answer the very real call on our lives to make the world a better place.

The Juicy Middle

I learned that releasing youth-riddled ideas can be quite challenging; it is like shedding your first skin.  These notions that we hold about who we are, what we are good at, or what we think we should be doing are very powerful; as much as they may propel us forward, they can also hold us back.

For years I was unknowingly being impacted by these very same fears.  I was constantly pushing as I suffered from the beliefs that I did not have enough time, things were not happening fast enough for me, and I was not measuring up to the ideals I was attached to about who I was supposed to be and what I was supposed to be accomplishing.

Was I failing, progressing too slow, running out of time?  Would the day come when I realized that the train had left the station, and I was not on it?

This place of existence that so many women find themselves at today is utterly exhausting, unhealthy and unsustainable.  At a certain point I got tired of the fight and I laid it all down; the long-held notions of what I needed to do in life, and the ideas of who I thought I was supposed to be, dissolved.  Like a death, I released my young ideas about image, career, beauty and body.

It was difficult to evolve.  I had to let go of who I was which was outdated and had become a source of pain, in order to be who I am becoming.

I experienced sadness and confusion; but then I began joyfully entering my next act.  It was abundantly clear to me that I had been blocking myself from entering the juicy middle of my life.  At age 36, I have just begun to put away my child-like obsessions and come into my own.  As one of my teachers often said, life is a long time.  I was too stuck in my old ideas to allow the flow of an unplanned life bursting with a new level of potential–and as a result my life and dreams had come to a brief stand-still.

When my mind-set shifted, a door without a handle opened; the mystery returned, and life opened up to me in a whole new way.  I felt renewal, as if I was being reincarnated in my existing body.  And everything in my life began to flow in fresh, unexpected and exciting ways!

Where ever you are in life, I challenge you to examine mind-sets around your age, your dreams and the pursuit of happiness.  Instead of holding back, believing that you’re missing it, feeling that your time is running out or your moment in the sun is passing you by–think about the reality that you have a lot of life to live.  You may as well be pursuing good stuff and realizing your dreams.  You are just now arriving at a place of readiness, and it is really never too late.

What are you ready to do now that you were not capable of ten years ago?  This is your prime and the juiciest parts are just beginning.  Let’s embrace our budding wisdom and bask in the richness and freedom of our maturity.  The best is yet to come.

Endings, Beginnings & Major Changes: Full Moon Lunar Eclipse

A Full Moon Lunar Eclipse marks a time of endings, beginnings, and major changes.  Although things may seem to be in major flux–our houses lopsided and our doors coming off the hinges–we can be sure that this earthly chaos is actually divine order.

We are exactly where we need to be, and we can trust in that, no matter how things may seem.

This informative post by Mystic Mama (www.mysticmama.com) includes several exceptional excerpts from leading astrologers and zodiac experts in the field about this powerful cosmic event …check it out:

*FULL MOON* + Lunar Eclipse December 10, 2011

http://www.mysticmamma.com/full-moon-lunar-eclipse-december-10-2011/

I began feeling this energy around last Wednesday (apparently the eclipse energies are strongest during the period two days prior to the event and three days following the occurrence) with experiences ranging from irritation; difficulty sleeping; odd dreams; diverse feelings; unexplained sadness; noticing my animals acting strangely; and my five-year old son to be highly temperamental, dramatic and weepy for no apparent reason.  Accompanying this intensity were some pleasant, high vibrational surprises, including fresh perspectives on some age-old problems; many new ideas and revelations; a much-needed burst of wind in my sails; and things taking off in some exciting and unforseen directions, with many new opportunities on the horizon.  Additionally there has been a heart-opening with major shifts and deep healings in some key relationships.

How has this catalyst for change been playing out in your world?