The Middle Way Takes You There

A New Take On Resolutions:The Middle Way Takes You There

As we shift now, marked by the end of ancient calendars and the beginning of a new year, there seems to be a call for a transcendence and reconciliation of the extremes and opposing ways in our life.

Having survived the polarizing period marked by the end of humanity’s 26,000 year cycle, and the conclusion of another year in our personal lives, we continue to travel around the circle of life as we embark on new beginnings.

We often celebrate the end of a year by setting intentions of some kind for the next. In this way, we generally say, “I want to stop doing this and start doing that.”

However, whether we are looking forward globally as a collective, or personally as an individual, moving from the extreme of this to the opposite extreme of that involves a massive change.

Idealism aside, in most cases such moves are unrealistic. A reason that resolutions of this kind do not hold up is because they are just too drastic.

Rarely do they honor where you ARE but rather they catapult you toward an ideal that you are nowhere near able to sustain (otherwise, you’d already be doing it).

The Way Between This and That

Maybe you’ve noticed that extremes have been playing out everywhere. The flame of extremism peaks it seems before it burns out. Many people, myself included, have been bouncing between old habits and new behaviors, high emotional states and lowly feelings of shame and pain, or feelings of throwing-in-the-towel met with a new sense of can-do felt stronger than ever before.

In this way it is apparent that the conclusion of this year is a catalyst for integration.

We have arrived at a connection with our zero point. This beginning is different from others in that now we can finally integrate our inner (subjective) world and the outer (objective) world.

The potential for such reconciliation has been long sought by many, because the separation and deviation between our inner-world-reality and our outer-world- reality causes each of us suffering.

Here, in the zero point energy offered between the old and the new, there is an opportunity and call to integrate our extremes in order to embark on a middle-way.

The middle-way says that we don’t damn the thing we think we need to stop, nor do we idealize the thing that we want to start.

Instead, we find the place in between these two points, where we can balance and even enjoy ourselves while making upgrades and taking the journey toward our own potential.

Very often we resist the middle way because:

–>      As a path it seems too simple and subtle

–>      Balance is in fact the hardest thing

But the middle-way is the perfect fusion between where we are and where we want to go, the neutral point between what we deem bad and good, and the states of being & doing. 

In the middle, we don’t need to stop or start, but rather we just move along toward our next in renewed ways.

A New Approach for a New Year

This year as you take stock of your thrills, successes, disappointments and personal let-downs, find the lessons.  And if you make a resolution consider letting it be simply to go forward on the path of the middle-way where you integrate where you are and where you are headed.

By setting a resolution to find the middle-way in all that we aspire to improve or change, we will begin collapsing dualities and taming extremes.

Some examples of common extremes and possible middle-way intentions could include:

–>      Natural Healing vs. Allopathic Medicine

The Middle Way:  As we look towards the possibility of improving our health or healing, we can give ourselves permission to use the medicines, supplements, foods and treatments that support us right now that create maximum comfort and success regardless of what they may be.

–>      Indulgence vs. Abstinence

The Middle Way:  As we examine habits or behaviors that we may beat ourselves up about or struggle to keep balanced, we can use the crowding out philosophy which allows partaking without berating as we include equal behaviors, substances and nourishing activities that feel good and naturally crowd-out the imbalanced habit without feeling deprivation (which is a trigger for addiction).

–>      Real Relationship vs. Ideal Relationship

The Middle Way:  As we ponder ways to increase contentment and satisfaction in our personal relationships we can start by dropping the extreme templates formed around the expectations placed in our heads from fairy tales, hollywood movies, or roles and images from days of old.  Instead we can go for the practice of allowing each other to be who we are and looking for ways to compromise and find the middle ground around this authentic being-ness.

–>     Religion vs. Spirituality

The Middle Way:  As we reflect on belief systems or look to up our spiritual practices we can intend to ease the promotion of strict lines of thinking that lead us to feel fear, guilt, shame and separation and find ways to connect with the essence and heart from which our personal practice is based, which unites, edifies and builds up.

–>      Job that you don’t like vs. Creative Labor that excites you

The Middle Way:  As we seek meaning and purpose in our lives through career or service, we can give ourselves space to re-examine how we spend our days, our occupational duties, and the ideal that lights us up.  Rather than drastic moves or staying the course in mysery, it is likely possible to find ways to do more of what we love at our existing occupation and less of what we don’t, or ignite projects outside of work that include our passions.

Having It All Right Now

We know from experience that there is rarely a quick fix solution.  Unresolved “stuff” which stands between the way it is and the way it could be indicates that it is going to take time for things to fully shift to the eden-like state of perfection that we are all templated to desire.

This may best be taken on by keeping our eye on the new possibility which we can see clearly now perhaps for the first time while taking steps of incremental change which lead us into the Garden.

Through sincerity, endurance, presence and truth of heart we always prosper.  The path of the middle-way takes us out of our all or nothing mentality and places us in an energetic zone of prosperity where we exist within the potential of having it all right now. And we do whatever we can do right now, from this place.

As we enjoy this fresh start of a new year, we only need to make one resokution: to inyend to move along the path of the middle-way. 

It is the one resolution that will mean something very different to us all, and yet will simultaneously set us on a unified path.

The Uber Importance of Feeling Good

Many would say that our culture has become too concerned with “feelings”.  And that, this concern has caused an over-sensitive generation of ego-centric folks to be obsessed with how things make them feel, (and unwilling to do the things that make them feel bad even if they are a necessity).

Maybe there is some imbalance in this area.  After all, the pendulum had to swing fiercely to leave the long grueling years of “grin and bear it” in order to get to a place where a vision of life that does not involve long-suffering was a possibility.

As a result, most of us who now concern ourselves with feelings had to overcome a belief system that causes us to be concerned after a period of too much good-feeling.  We assume that things aren’t allowed to be that good for too long.  We begin looking for the reasons we should stop feeling good, as if feeling bad a certain amount of the time is some duty we have.

We all have these notions about feelings, and good feelings.  These fears and beliefs have been instilled in us one way or another.

But let’s take a minute to consider the fusion of feelings and physics.  Inertia, entropy and momentum are laws of physics and properties of matter.  If we live on earth we are to some degree influenced by them.

Essentially this would mean that in terms of inertia if we are moving in the direction of things that don’t feel good, we will continue in that direction until influenced by an outside force otherwise.

Entropy says that, left to themselves things tend to go from bad to worse.  So using our will to move towards that which feels better would seem to be a wise choice.

Ah, feelings can be wise.

And yet, we live in a world that often scoffs at paying too much attention to feeling.  After all, feelings are whimsical and they can’t be trusted.

Hard-core people who like to compete and win will say that aiming for good feelings is airy-fairy.  After all who has time to choose the better feeling thought and move towards the better feeling thing, when one is concerned with dominating , controlling, and forcing.

I recently read an excerpt from a book written by Dr. Christiane Northrup in which she said that her father always told her that feelings were facts and to pay attention to them.  My wise father has always said that we cannot change our feelings, but we can change the way we respond to them.

And I say that the way we can respond to our feelings is by paying more attention to them and not less; to give them the respect they deserve, and to let them influence the choices we make, and those things for which we aim.

Pick a thought that feels better, take an action that feels better, move toward the goal that once reached will make you feel better–because a better feeling reality is a better reality, yes?

Changing our approach to our life and giving our feelings the credibility they deserve seems to be an evolution for culture.  Our minds are useful, and they can get us far.  But our feelings, yes… they may get us farther.  Our feelings connect us with the unseen, that which is not known, but can be felt.

Rather than suppressing feelings or repressing feelings or ignoring feelings, what if we sat them on the throne and let them lead?  What about a world full of better feeling people?

Suddenly feelings become a state of existence, and a state of existence is a reality.

Pulling Out of the Matrix

Life is happening these days at the speed of light.  Call it 2012, the Mayan calendar, or the last few good moments before the end of the world—whatever the case, we are at the brink of an acknowledged time acceleration. 

Whether the time space continuum is actually changing, or modern living just makes it seem that way–thriving and not just surviving requires a serious balancing act.  This means that you have to be more committed to those things that edify you, keep you healthy, and keep you sane, than you are to anything else.

It goes without saying that modern life is stressful.  Rapid changes and numerous expectations within multiple areas of life at the same time have increased the number of acute and chronic stressors in people’s lives.  Most people live under the steady strain of mild overwhelm.  This has become the norm.

Canadian researcher Hans Selye, a pioneer in the study of stress, published research over forty years ago showing that an increasing number of people in developed countries die of what he termed “diseases of civilization” primarily caused by stress.  His studies indicated that the stressors of the modern world were indeed the dominant cause of degenerative disease.

The modern system is a world-construct, a paradigm of which we are members.   However, just because everything is on hyper-drive this day and age does not mean that you have to be.

Stopping My World

Allowing myself to be whipped around in the whirlwind of life for years, I began to feel that I was literally being held hostage by modernization.  This, I discovered, was the invisible reason for my discontent.

So preoccupied with multitasking, I spent the majority of my time not living in the “now”, but worrying about what was coming next.  The inevitable demands of life seemed to leave me scrapping for a moment of peace and a sliver of joy.  Even worse, I began suffering from serious health challenges as a result.

Knowing that it was time to take my life back into my own hands, I spent a couple of years contemplating how I could extract the meaning from my hyper-busy-life, and then create a life centered around this meaning—in my existing modern world.

With this in mind I set out to discover the keys to restoring contentment, good health and well-being, and developed a personal-thrive-formula for my own life.

Pulling Out of the Matrix

When I began accepting that many of the norms that were well accepted by most people in our culture will never work for me, I knew that I was in quite a quandary.  Uh-oh, mama don’t wanna play that.

Realizing that I was spending the majority of my time coping with what-is rather than following my own vibe, I learned that living strategically would be the key to personal well-being.

I had to determine how I wanted to feel, what my body really needed, and under which conditions I thrive—and then create a lifestyle and business around these personal truths (rather than the other way around).  This revelation changed everything.

Doing things differently in a way that suited me meant that I had to:

–>Pull out of the mainstream matrix

->Make self-care and personal growth my hobby

Getting My Thrive On

Being in control of my situation and having power over how I show up in the world has been life-changing to say the least.  Pulling out of the matrix and reconnecting to those things that allow me to flow and be in my natural state has become my religion.

 My personal thrive-formula consists of the following variables:

 –>Simplify; identify and eliminate the things from my life that really aren’t important in order to consciously make time for what is (note: the world does not always agree with what I say is not important, and vice-versa)

 –>Honor my natural limits; stop when I hit my personal wall rather than pushing through it and don’t over-schedule or over-commit

 –>Feelings-first; decide how I want to feel, and follow where that feeling leads (the opposite of mainstream thinking) which keeps me connected to me, which then keeps me connected to my Original Blue Print, which then keeps me on my proper course (opposed to manipulated ideas and concocted plans)

 –>Eat real food; follow an 80/20 rule that consists mostly of living, natural foods containing the raw materials that my body-organism needs for peak functioning and healing

 –>Make rest & solitude a top priority; scheduling a pause in the middle of my day to honor my natural rhythm, restore harmony, and rekindle creativity

–>Tune into nature; time away from the hubbub of life to relax in communion with nature by laying, sitting or standing barefoot with direct contact on the earth for at least a few minutes a day (also great for the common modern day ailment of Restless Leg Syndrome)

 –>Movement; gentle yoga and stretching are essential… as it integrates my mind, body and spirit simultaneously in one essential activity and balances the time spent hunched over at my computer

–>Pursue meaningful work; writing and coaching allows for self-expression and service to others which connects me to my purpose and moves me in the direction of my heart’s desire

–>Do one thing at a time; ditching the tendency to multi-task and trying to do just one thing at a time actually allows me to get much more done and feel a sense of completion and accomplishment rather than confusion

–>Say no; the phrases “that doesn’t work for me” and “let me get back to you” have relieved me from the habit of just saying yes to please everyone leaving me frustrated and resentful that my own priorities had taken the back-seat once again

–>Practice radical self-care; I am not able to take care of anyone or anything else if I’m burnt out or run down, so creating the space for self-care is critical; getting a facial, manicure, massage, time off to watch a movie, taking a nap or whatever else I may need at the moment all count

–>Regular body work sessions; extremely transformative for me and my saving grace, I enjoy various kinds of bodywork regularly and get some of my best and workable ideas during this time

 –>Prioritize sleep; aiming for 9 to 10 hours of sleep is my (not always reachable but intended) goal as getting more sleep helps me function at a high level and be better at everything in my life

 –>Mentoring; ever the student, working with business, health, life coaches, and spiritual counselors pays off in spades helping me with my own multi-faceted development and creating a unique lifestyle and business that is an expression of my authenticity

Beyond Should’s And Have-To’s

Being busy 24/7 means that you may be missing out on the things that really bring joy and fulfillment in your life.  When life is over-complicated and over-full, there’s little space for what truly matters.  Personal growth, positive energy, love, and even breathing becomes a challenge.

Paradigm Shift:  What is working in your life right now, and what is not?  Do you maintain the status quo (buy what they sell, eat what they serve, do what they do) rarely thinking about a more original or authentic way of doing things that may bring you more personal contentment?

Coaching tip:

–>Identify where you are on auto-pilot

–>Figure out your non-negotiables for bringing forth the divine gold within yourself

Action step: 

–>Add one of these into your life regularly over the course of the next month

–>See what happens when you run at your own pace and champion your own needs

You can begin conscious lifestyle creation, starting now.  With nothing more than the ingredients at hand you already possess the capability to devise a new response that can revise your current situation if you so desire.

Everything in your life can’t change over night, and certain responsibilites are required of you.  However, if you think outside of the box and open yourself up to what may be viewed as unorthodox approaches, you can begin to re-order your modern life in a way that will allow you to thrive rather than just survive.

Using Your To-Do List As a Spiritual Practice

I have had an active mindfulness practice for several years now.  When I wash dishes or fold clothes, I am doing a moving meditation.  Focusing on my breathing and body while performing these mundane tasks adds another dimension to the activity while also keeping me grounded.

As an adult I have really struggled at times with domestication.  I fought with the tedious and repetitive tasks that were never finished, and felt that they were distractions from the things that were really important to me.

A bridge between the higher and lower, the grind of the material realm can feel to me like a root canal.  What others perceive as easy-peezy, I often find to be grueling and hideous; on the other hand what many would consider to be super-natural, I consider a day in the life.

Keeping the physical world intact while I surf the waves of higher dimensions is not always easy for me.  Yet, living out my life of responsibilities, roles, errands, and work has been a platform for personal growth.

And as a result of my daily mindfulness practice I have experienced a miraculous change.

I use the word miraculous with strict intent for I have discovered that the daily tasks and chores in my life can indeed be catalysts to enter into a holy flow.  This is a state of existence I also experience as at-one-ment.

The Act or Process of Being At-One

There is a subtle yet distinct difference between practicing the presence, being centered in the now, and experiencing the state of atonement.

You can be centered, grounded, and connected—and not be at-one.

All of this, in my experience, is necessary to experience at-one-ment—however it does not guarantee that you will enter that state.  At-one-ment is a state of grace.

Religious notions aside, atonement is a word inspired by the Latin word adunamentum meaning at one and in harmony.  The middle-English version of the word was onement meaning unity.

Thus I perceive the state of at-one-ment as a holy flow where there is no separation between yourself, the Divine, and the action you are undertaking.  It is the divine flow actualized, not just perceived.

The Integration of Two Worlds

We are accustomed to the idea of separation—the division of all things that appear different than one another. This begins here, and stops there; this is good and that is bad.  Duality is a state of being separated.  And separation is a root of suffering.

Yet duality is gone when separation ends.

In this way, the state of at-one-ment can be viewed as the reconciliation between the spiritual and physical.  Here, something radical begins to emerge as the two opposites fuse and transmute into neutrality.

As it turns out, life is a physical experience being had by spiritual-beings.  I have experienced that merging these two realities allows me to live in both worlds at once, as intended.

Fodder for the Fire

My struggle with mundane tasks and domestication has been a source of angst for me most of my adult life as I would rather be off bending spoons, studying the latest holistic cure, or reading and writing about science and spirituality.

I would check out of my real life when faced with a laundry list of standard to-do’s.  Physically exerting myself while detached from my reality, I would become tragically drained, frustrated, and desperate as I struggled along using all of my might to accomplish the tasks.

A sense of doom would come over me at times, as I felt that the maintenance of physical life was a never ending and exhausting ordeal.

In order to bring some awareness into the vicious cycle, I began practicing mindfulness as an active spiritual practice.  As often as I loaded the dishwasher or cleaned up toddler toys I would practice a combination of yoga-like breathing techniques, awareness, intent and focus.

A couple of years into this daily practice while going about daily tasks, I had a divine breakthrough.  I entered an altered state of consciousness and felt divine intelligence coursing through my experience.  I was in the zone, so present and unified with the divine flow that I was at one with every action I took.

This meant that I was not pondering what to do, when to do something or how to do something, nor was I dreading doing something or prematurely taking actions thru some manipulated thought process. I was not two steps behind or one step ahead, rather I was absolutely perfectly aligned with mind, body, spirit, breath, and action.  This ease felt like heaven and brought a simple joy and equality to all actions.

In this state I could see that there was no separation between the groceries that I was buying, the article that sat on my desk to be completed, or the spiritual convention I would soon be attending.  Although my ego had been dividing these tasks according to preference, the reality was that they were equal necessities forming the whole of my life.  I could see the interconnectedness of everything, making each task at an energetic level the same.

My to-do list actually became a catalyst for entering the magical state of at-one-ment.

While functioning at-one, you are:

->No longer subject to the clock and have experiences of stretching time

->Experiencing equal joy during all activities

->Grounded, sharp and feel in sync with the Universe

->Animated by a higher Intelligence which actively guides you to the next action

->In the zone, moving and shifting before the signal to do so is even given

->Not two steps behind, or one step ahead

->Functioning at an extremely high level with little to no stress, chaos or overwhelm

->Energized and strengthened by the act of doing as you summon exactly what is needed

->Accomplishing far more than what would normally seem possible

->In the space of miracles, enjoying divine flow and powered by grace.

Maintaining such a state of grace requires mastery, focus and an element of surrender to the task at hand.  In my experience, as soon I become cognizant that I am at-one my mind takes over relishing the experience, and I lose it.  Having these experiences, however, has been life-changing as it has reconciled the separation in my life that caused suffering.

Adding Awareness to Your To-Do List

Simple daily activities are a great place to begin a mindfulness practice.  Whatever the task, bring all of yourself to it.  When present, you may find that the work is no longer a burden.

Be fully alert as you move.  Notice your body and practice your breath, while paying attention when thoughts enter your mind that take you away from your focus.  As this occurs (and of course it will) simply drop the thoughts and redirect the focus back to the task and your breath.  If you are cleaning the house, treat every movement as if it is important and clean as if it were the most significant thing you could do.  Move with fluid motions, as if you are in yoga or dance class, wasting no energy.

There is a Zen saying, “Before enlightenment chop wood carry water, after enlightenment, chop wood carry water.”  In a world where it is hip to be “spiritual” and a great deal of energy is put into the process of seeking, it can be refreshing to realize that every moment of our existence, and every item on our to-do list, is a catalyst for moving into alignment with the beat of the divine.

At-one-ment:  not something that happened once on a spiritual alter somewhere; a state of grace that fuses the physical and spiritual realms through you.  If you think about it, this changes everything.

 

Clearing the Runway—Making Space for Your Spring Growth Spurt

Each year around this time my personal plans fly out of the window as I am carried away by an intense process much bigger than me.

A sensitive who is very in-tune with planetary energies and alignments, the equinox period always seems to be particularly potent.  Bathed in light and pulsating with potential—the seeds that I have been nurturing since the fall push forth demanding expression.

This creative tension ushers in my own personal apocalypse:  the revealing of things previously unknown.

Without fail, the blazing light of the vernal equinox has brought a keen awareness into my sphere of existence.  After many days of x-ray vision, intuitive downloads and super-sensing I reached a saturation point.  It was time to assimilate and act on that which was made known.  My spring purification process had begun.

Reason for the Season

The obvious outward expression of renewal, seen in nature at spring-time, mirrors our personal inward experience of rebirth.  Indeed, the new shoots bursting from the ground have nothing on the explosion of transformation churning on the inward plane.

Yet as the body vibrates and quivers with new energies, it also demands stillness.  A careful balance of opposing forces— the active and strong energy of full bloom and the quiet energy of dreaming and germinating—collide resulting in new manifestations.

Spring, ushered in by the wamma-jamma equinox, is a time of movement after hibernation.  As nature moves out of the cold and dark winter, the pulse of life quickens, the earth warms, and blossoms unwind as they reach for the sun.

Ancient Ayurveda, also known as the Science of Life, focuses on living in tune with nature and recognizes the intimate relationship between the individual and the environment.  Ayurveda teaches that seasonal changes have a profound affect on our well-being.

There are many ways that we can adapt our lifestyle to stay balanced in each season.  Spring presents an opportunity to perform the time-honored ritual of cleansing.

The idea of spring cleaning is much more significant than just cleaning out the back of closets and wiping down the tip-top of shelves.  A metaphysical cleansing is the essence of spring cleaning.  When cleansing is done with an alchemical intention that addresses each level of being (mind, body, spirit, emotions, and environment) we are clearing our runway for take-off to a whole new level.

Transitioning into spring can be greatly facilitated by creating sukha, a Sanskrit word which means good space.  Creating sukha is especially important when you’re trying to wring out the excess winter energies which are dense and moist.

Not taking care to consciously create sukha can result in the restricted flow of energy which then creates dukkha or bad space.  General well-being and happiness emerge from sukha, while misery and confusion emerge from the distorted flow of dukkha.

Me, Myself & Flow

My version of spring cleaning revolves around frequency cleansing.   Since we experience the energy of life primarily through our mind and body, then a metaphysical spring cleaning will naturally include the physical aspects of our life as well.

There are millions of particles and energy waves passing through our bodies without us noticing them and everything we encounter has to go somewhere.   Much of  what we experience gets lodged or leaves a residue at some level of our being.  Cleansing before our spring growth spurt (rapid manifestation period) is essential.

During my metaphysical purification process, I noticed that each awareness that I had corresponded with a place in my body, and that each place in my body had an external component within my physical environment.

As I began following the energy, breathing into the feelings bit by bit, and finding the strength to address it all—I noticed that I would be led to an action in my outer world that I needed to take, something that I had to do, or an area in my physical environment that was stagnant, chaotic or dirty.

Whether it was a tough physical reality that needed to be faced and accepted, a very important phone call I was putting off making, a critical appointment I was afraid to go to, or a cluttered corner or dirty room in my home—the inner road map for purification would continually lead through cycles of deep awareness, intense resistance, and then to a required action on the outer plane.

After the assimilation of each a-ha moment, I began to feel strong waves of resistance.  This resistance, I realized, was the core energy and original error, which caused the block in the first place.

The resistance was present at each point:  upon feeling the energy of awareness, while looking at what I had been avoiding, and when taking an action that I feared or disliked.  It was a heavy and fear-filled energy that rolled through my system like a bowling ball.  Despite this, I continued to lift veils, breathe into the next level, and discover new road blocks on my runway that needed to be cleared as I toggled between an inner and outer cleansing process.

While moving through the internal purification and external actions, I noticed that I was discharging large amounts of stagnant energy which required me to stop regularly.  Sitting on the grass or using my earthing mat helped to facilitate release.   Additionally, in order to move the incredible amounts of energy through my system I found acupuncture, massage, yoga and reflexology to be essential.

While I created sukha, I became cognizant that this process was launching me into life at a new place of vibrational residence; it involved:

>Cleansing:  a natural clearing of my environment, mind, body, emotions, and spirit which was challenging to keep up with

>Changing Seasons:  shifting from a hibernative, introverted mode to a more active, extroverted mode with a call to assert myself with vigilance in all areas of my life

>Biological Upgrades:  healing and rejuvenation at the cellular level including the repair of DNA and the evolution of my physicality

>Cleaning the Hard Drive:  wiping the neural and energetic pathways and circuits clean so that they are ready for new information and signals

>Divine Feminine:  a powerful and new connection with the feminine energy that gives birth to and nourishes forms as related to the female aspect of God and associated with Earth, nurturing, love, and sensuality

>Initiation:  a ritual period whereby a new level of frequency was activated

>Unification:  preparing the mind and body for active participation of unity consciousness by experiencing myself as a single cell in the body of humanity

>Balance:  establishing a delicate balance between yin and yang, masculine and feminine, action and rest, and doing and being

Inside-Out Spring Cleaning Check List

To move beyond any feelings of being sluggish, stuck, or having low energy after a long and challenging winter consider a process of clarifying, purifying and letting go this season.

Conducting a spring metaphysical cleaning can be done by examining the check list below.  We can’t heal what we cannot see and feel.  On the other hand when we can see it and feel it, we can heal it.

For each category select three lower frequencies that you want to cleanse and let go of, and three higher frequencies that you want to add in and cultivate.  Of course, this purification will be a deep inward process and will require you to take these concepts off of the page and into your life as guided by your inner spirit.  Start here to begin clearing your runway:

Spiritual

>Release:  examining old religious beliefs that need reinterpretation, notions rooted in spiritual fluff that actually slow down spiritual evolution, wounded healer and ascension stories, ideas of right and wrong, rigid beliefs that keep you from new ways of living and being, resistance, intolerance, outdated spiritual practices that are no longer relevant

>Integrate:  channels that allow for expansion, updated spiritual practices, centering, grounding, time for contemplation, connecting with inner spirit daily

Energetic

>Release:  accumulated debris from trauma, stagnant energy, blockages in chakra and meridian systems (this will be linked to cleaning out corners in home and repairing issues)

>Integrate:  intuiting and feeling into the body and energy system for blockages or restricted flow and consciously allowing energy to move through, using tools such as wooden pillows, an earthing mat, yin yoga props, and massage units to facilitate and restore flow, energy healing, grounding

Mental

>Release:  old and tired victim stories, negative thinking, negative self-talk, obsessing, karmic patterns that you are already aware of but are still repeating, thinking patterns that are not yours but that are part of your code of living which you absorbed from family or life partners, erroneous beliefs about what you are or are not good at, resistance about taking complete responsibility for everything in your life, unworthiness

>Integrate:  saying positive mantras when experiencing habitual thought loops (my favorite:  I now express divine design in my mind, body and soul), inserting positive expectations in place of regularly occurring negative expectations, mindfulness practice, conscious breathing, body scanning, meditation and simple breathing to quiet the mind

Emotional

>Release:  dwelling in sadness, unresolved guilt, unhealed grief, shame connected to anything, excessive highs or lows that cause imbalances and disrupt optimal functioning, relationship drama

>Integrate:  permission to feel the way you feel, crying to release, time and space to be with and feel your emotions including grief, guilt and shame without attaching thoughts, stories or judgments to them, honoring the power of your emotions, acknowledging positive emotions such as joy as it arises, activities that cultivate joy, using positive emotions to aid in conscious creation

Physical

>Release:  addictions, too much or too little of anything, over-eating, sleep deprivation, resistance to exercise, apathy related to the material realm, poor self-care habits, pushing past your natural limits, procrastination, excessive busyness, fake foods, refined foods, and junk food

>Integrate:  taking care of pesky little things about your appearance you’ve let go, scheduling healing or body care appointments, touching areas that have not gotten attention or that hurt, looking at your body naked while examining any areas you have been scared or uncomfortable about, getting medical check-ups for things that have been concerning you, upgrades to your personal care routine, extreme self-care, living foods, whole food vitamins, probiotics, omega-3 supplement, adding in or taking out whatever is needed to establish balance and enhance functioning

People

>Release:  individuals that drain your energy, masks and false ways of being that hide the real you, people pleasing, relationships that bring you distress, co-dependence, and power struggles (list individuals with whom you have power struggles; write down what you would say to them to end the struggle once and for all if you were not afraid of their reaction; keep it in your journal for review or burn it to release)

>Integrate:  making a point to call or visit the ones that you hold guilt for not contacting enough such as parents and siblings, reaching out to meaningful people that you have lost touch with, being direct with love while expressing your truth in every moment, arranging your life to spend more time with the people that bring you joy, igniting new friendships that resonate with who you are now, strong boundaries

Environment

>Release:  blocked corners, stacks of stuff, piles of papers, toxic, inconvenient, or broken items you have not used for a long time and do not actually need, stagnation, dust, dirty spaces, anything that is not useful or beautiful

>Integrate:  rearranging furniture, reordering items to prevent stagnation and dust accumulation, performing a space clearing ceremony in your home, incense, sage, fresh flowers, plants, crystals, salt lamps, fountains, music, creating meditation space, designating one area that is exclusively yours and fill it with the things that you love and that reflect who you are

Examining these areas for imbalances, lower frequencies, resistance, blocks, stagnation, chaos, drama, grime and clutter will enable you to wrap up old energies, create good space, and practice conscious manifestation.

The fertile nature of this spring growth spurt offers ample energies and ease of creation.  The force that is seen and felt at the equinox and throughout the season of spring is sheer creative force.

Things including what direction you are moving in, the blocks in your field and body, your desires, your clarity of intention, and the cleanliness of your runway will all determine whether your spring take-off is easy and comfortable or jarring and tumultuous.

Get your sukha on so you can shift smoothly into your next vibrational lane.

 

We’ve Got Ourselves a Runner–Going & Doing to Avoid Simply Being

You know those periods of your life when things are peaking out in every direction.  You would spend your mental energy freaking out about your circumstances—if there were a specific direction for the freak to flow.  But it just seems like everything, everywhere, all at once.  There is a strange comfort in the fact that there’s not just one acute thing for you to breakdown about.  And although appearances may say otherwise, at a deep level you know that it is not a breakdown at all—it is actually a break through.

This knowing is not some magic antidote that makes it all okay.  But it is a deep awareness that matches the vastness of the madness.  All you can really do is stop–and be with it.  You just have to let it all be.

If you are like me, this is about the time when you get really busy; loading dishwashers, washing clothes, cleaning closets, taking road trips and creating all kinds of ideas of busyness that you cannot escape from.  The situation is calling for you to face it down and soften in the midst of its fierceness.

But you just can’t, because you’re so busy, being busy.

I always knew that I was an escape artist—frequently leaving my body and zooming out into never-never land where I lived in the magnificent space of what-if and maybe-one-day and if-only in order to temper reality for a while.  This I knew…that I was an escape artist; and therefore my life’s work for the last several years has been to learn how to get grounded and stay in my body, no matter what was occurring around me.

I did not know, however, that I was a runner.  Although escapism and running are close cousins, they are not the same.  Running is characterized by a doing and going rather than an etheric-leaving.  You can be in your body and grounded in reality, and still run.

I realized that I was a runner just recently when faced with the devastating news that my beloved cat, earth-guardian and fuzzy angelic, Quincy, was facing eminent death.   At 15 years old, Quincy has lived a great life.  I believed that he was going to be my 22-year-old sage-pet, however, so in my mind we still had a solid seven years together.

That is, until the vet dealt the heart wrenching blow: Quincy has an acute heart condition and is living out his last few months on earth right now.  It took me several days to process the initial shock and pain.  After accepting he was going to die, I began releasing him…I sobbed for days.

And then the most interesting thing happened.  I can’t even believe it myself…to my surprise I found myself tapping my foot and wringing my hands as if it was not happening fast enough.

So after much weeping, I got up and got really busy.

Quincy needed pee-pads because he was not using the litter box.  He needed to eat baked salmon because he was no longer eating his cat food.  He needed a bath because he was no longer cleaning himself.  Suddenly my office needed to be organized, and I needed to add clothes to my wardrobe, and those thank you cards really needed to get out.  Things which I was all too ready not to attend to for months were suddenly uber important.  I was in a state of panic and I did not know if I could even leave the house, because he might drop dead while I was out.  Like an overzealous architect, I felt an extreme and irrational pull to build a skyscraper when all that was needed in this moment was a simple, one story house.

In the midst of all of this, Quincy looked up at me, his eyes squinty and sparkling.  He said, “Just be with me.”

Be with him.

Be present with him and let it all be–just as it was.  Let it all take as long as it would take.  Allow it, all of it, even the agonizing void-space of not knowing when, and not knowing how.  Just be there, with him, and the pain, and the unconditional love, and the desperation of not being able to do anything.  Anything, but be with him.

As I sat there fully present, a large shift began to occur.  It was as if I could feel the unfolding of every silent beat within my universe.  I am familiar with stillness and meditation and energetic shifts—but this was different.  An immense amount of power and energy charged through me, because I was still-enough and present-enough to allow it.

I received what I realized to be Quincy’s final gift to me.  He taught me what it felt like to not run.  He taught me how to stay.  Even when it is hard.  Even when you are scared.  Even when you don’t know what comes next.

Just be with it, and allow it to be.

As I write this, I am having to exercise these atrophied muscles.  Not only did Quincy just transition into the non-physical, but in fact, many things in my life are transitioning.  I have cleared up so much mental, emotional and physical goo over the last several years, that finally the deepest core stuff can now shine through.  And as it expresses—I feel that familiar urge to run.

Run to my medicine cabinet, run to my spiritual counselor, run to the yoga studio, run to the doctor’s office, run to the organic produce section, run to that next thing that is going to fix things and make it all better…just run.

And with this awareness, I force myself to stay with what-is just a little bit longer.  Stay with the feeling, the energy, the fear, the intensity, the not-knowing—before I go and do the things that help me to feel better about it all.

Life is a balancing act between being and doing.  Doing is not to be damned; there is an important place for it.  But, without being, doing is just busyness and empty work.  Being is the most important (and challenging) part.  And yet, we are all too ready to rush right over being while we spin wildly on the wheel of doing.

Being creates a neutral space for something new and miraculous to emerge.  It moves you away from the striving place of might and into the realm of grace, where un-thought of things are possible.

And so today I sat in stillness and acceptance and resisted flight, creating space for the alchemy of transmutation.  Then I ran to my computer…to write this blog post.

Dedicated to my beloved Quincy, a great teacher, healer, and companion to me on my journey.  I love you and I miss you.