Many would say that our culture has become too concerned with “feelings”. And that, this concern has caused an over-sensitive generation of ego-centric folks to be obsessed with how things make them feel, (and unwilling to do the things that make them feel bad even if they are a necessity).
Maybe there is some imbalance in this area. After all, the pendulum had to swing fiercely to leave the long grueling years of “grin and bear it” in order to get to a place where a vision of life that does not involve long-suffering was a possibility.
As a result, most of us who now concern ourselves with feelings had to overcome a belief system that causes us to be concerned after a period of too much good-feeling. We assume that things aren’t allowed to be that good for too long. We begin looking for the reasons we should stop feeling good, as if feeling bad a certain amount of the time is some duty we have.
We all have these notions about feelings, and good feelings. These fears and beliefs have been instilled in us one way or another.
But let’s take a minute to consider the fusion of feelings and physics. Inertia, entropy and momentum are laws of physics and properties of matter. If we live on earth we are to some degree influenced by them.
Essentially this would mean that in terms of inertia if we are moving in the direction of things that don’t feel good, we will continue in that direction until influenced by an outside force otherwise.
Entropy says that, left to themselves things tend to go from bad to worse. So using our will to move towards that which feels better would seem to be a wise choice.
Ah, feelings can be wise.
And yet, we live in a world that often scoffs at paying too much attention to feeling. After all, feelings are whimsical and they can’t be trusted.
Hard-core people who like to compete and win will say that aiming for good feelings is airy-fairy. After all who has time to choose the better feeling thought and move towards the better feeling thing, when one is concerned with dominating , controlling, and forcing.
I recently read an excerpt from a book written by Dr. Christiane Northrup in which she said that her father always told her that feelings were facts and to pay attention to them. My wise father has always said that we cannot change our feelings, but we can change the way we respond to them.
And I say that the way we can respond to our feelings is by paying more attention to them and not less; to give them the respect they deserve, and to let them influence the choices we make, and those things for which we aim.
Pick a thought that feels better, take an action that feels better, move toward the goal that once reached will make you feel better–because a better feeling reality is a better reality, yes?
Changing our approach to our life and giving our feelings the credibility they deserve seems to be an evolution for culture. Our minds are useful, and they can get us far. But our feelings, yes… they may get us farther. Our feelings connect us with the unseen, that which is not known, but can be felt.
Rather than suppressing feelings or repressing feelings or ignoring feelings, what if we sat them on the throne and let them lead? What about a world full of better feeling people?
Suddenly feelings become a state of existence, and a state of existence is a reality.