One of the things that I have found to be most fascinating in my journey of awareness is the phenomenon of mirroring. The realization that everyone around me is showing or telling me something about myself is truly an extraordinary thought.
It is a psychological truth that we often see in others that which we do not like in ourselves. Since the law of attraction governs our Universe, like attracts like. In this way life acts as a mirror for what is going on inside of us.
Often times the Universe sends people that cast a signal to us that answers one of our most pressing questions or helps us to heal our most important issues. Like a looking glass, the person reflects an image back to us that shows us something we need to see.
Mirroring can be positive or negative; each of these offers a reflection of your truth.
The Good, the Bad & the Ugly
When we see the positive in others and think about how we wish that we were more like that, we are experiencing positive mirroring. People in our life whom we admire reflect our positive aspects that we may not recognize or acknowledge in ourselves. The very fact that we notice and are able to see that attribute signifies that we contain that greatness somewhere in us.
Mirroring however may be most impressive, and challenging, when it happens in less appealing ways.
Working with the public as a holistic health counselor, I have become aware of the magic of mirroring on many occasions through direct experience.
Sending a client my way that mirrors what I need to see in myself, the Universe frequently gives me highly important guidance (for me) during sessions with clients. Through them I am shown with precision that next thing I need to address, or that critical thing that I have been neglecting to do.
Often clients just won’t follow through on a particular recommendation regardless of how important or key it is to solving their most pressing concern. In these moments, I have learned to move into neutral awareness and look for the connection.
Usually, this area is somehow related to me; what I am not doing, or not following through on, myself. The Universe sends a magnetic-twin along to show me the answer that I have been seeking.
Try as I might—seeking the key to a pesky health concern or looking for the cause of a personal life imbalance—without that client and their challenge or question, I have not yet been successful in identifying that particular pattern or need in myself.
When I take the gift of this guidance shown to me by the human-mirror and make the change, I solve a significant problem. Once I begin taking that supplement, removing that toxin, eating that food, working on that part of my personality, or paying attention to that certain relationship dynamic in my life—my own issue begins to heal.
By paying close attention to the many instances of mirroring in my life, my eyes have been opened to some core patterns. I was intrigued to find that mirroring was not limited to my professional work, but also showed up in my personal relationships.
A Three Way Mirror
A mirroring pattern between three people has been the most transformative form of mirroring I have witnessed. When it shows itself in divine perfection, life-long patterns can be resolved that spawn out in many directions.
Peering into the mirrors that the Universe brings into our lives and owning what is being shown can often take real strength…especially when that which is being shown is unflattering.
A revealing moment shown to you in an interaction with another casts a clear reflection. Somewhere lurking in the shadows of your own being lies that most bothersome, painful and unacceptable trait or aspect that you have repeatedly disliked or been victim of by another. This is when you finally see that the way you are being treated is also the way you unknowingly have treated someone else; or that the negative aspect you have looked harshly upon in another also lives in you.
It is important to emphasize that this is an unexpected trait or pattern that has long been hidden in you–and something that you would deny or reject. You will know when you are on to it, because when faced with it in the mirror you can no longer deny it, and it makes you feel defensive, nauseous or emotionally disturbed.
For me, boundaries have always been a real challenge. I assumed that I was very respectful of all boundaries since people steam-rolled right through mine so often. However, understanding that this behavior is especially bothersome to me, I knew I needed to look for it within in order to pinpoint the root.
After a lifetime of problems maintaining my own personal boundaries, I had a mirroring-moment where I realized that a family-member who regularly exhibited boundary-busting behaviors that hurt me, was also showing me a deeply hidden disrespect for the boundaries of others within me.
I was stunned to see such a reflection. It was difficult to see that I was guilty of something that I found so offensive. After doing some deep inner work and taking responsibility for this issue, I was able to accept that I indeed treated others in this same way on occasion.
Able to view this pattern in three different ways (family member/myself/ friends) I could finally see the perplexing pattern clearly. Once I was able to see it in this way, I could work to forgive it in another, and then learn to turn that same compassion inward, and also forgive myself.
What You See Is What You Are
Due to the law of attraction and the magic of mirroring it is possible that the types of behavior that we regularly see and don’t like in others are aspects deeply hidden within ourselves.
With constant self-examination, self-honesty, and a willingness to step outside of ourselves regularly, we can use this information to help see ourselves more objectively and to bring to the surface obvious or repressed issues that we have previously buried.
Recognizing the lessons that these situations and individuals are mirroring gives us the precious opportunity to become conscious of our hidden beliefs, feelings, imbalanced behaviors, or shadow personality traits so that we can experience less suffering and conflict.
When we grow in our ability to handle what can often be the difficult reflections shown to us through the phenomenon of mirroring, it becomes our own powerful and secret formula for becoming whole.
The questions, unknowns, and things that we cannot quite figure out on our own are able to be solved by images revealed to us through our connections with others.